Hello beautiful people,
I have missed writing on here and I am so thankful to be able to finally write here. I have been occupied with work, school and goal chasing. Unfortunately, the blog just took a back seat once again.
What I have been up to and what I have learnt
I decided to break this down based on the five aspects of my life known to me at this point. I recommend you think about life like this when self-reflecting and hope you learn a thing or two.
Physical life: Goal setting is very important and so are incentives :). I don’t have a lot to say here.
Financial and Work life: School & Career Growth – I got the opportunity to work at my dream company -at the time (yaay), however, I left to complete my education. You see, I realized life is not all about work, power, how much money you have or what investments you have etc. Growth is an essential part of life and growth involves learning. To learn, you will make sacrifices because everything comes at a cost. There is a cost for everything no matter how little or big it might be; could be your time or money. You may not have to give up work for school but may have to give up time on social media and tv shows to read a book.
My work life also taught me that comfort and fear of the unknown hinders growth. I was so scared to quit working because I feared it would be a lot harder to get an accounting related job if I left the company; I also feared for my finances (the little I had). I am learning that to be truly successful and achieve great things, you will grind, and the grind comes with the uncertainty, fear and discomfort.
Finally, the last and most important thing I learnt in my work/ career life is to not lose myself trying to fit a certain description of success. I was so fascinated by the idea of being this career driven, focused, successful, independent woman that I lost touch of who I truly was.
That said, making money and being financially independent (and reckless- I have a post on this coming up) was great but, I am thankful I can go back to school and focus on my studies.
Social life – It’s been over a year since I moved back to Vancouver, and I barely made friends during my time here. To be honest, I was so fascinated by career growth and meeting people in my field, that I neglected my friends. These days, I realize that to make friends, I must be friendly – not just on social media and to my family and friends but in person and to strangers too. No one is an island and we all need each other. I am making out time to hang out and check in on people I care about and initiating and engaging in conversations with people (I am also trying to respond to messages a lot earlier -lol). At some point, I was all about giving others the same energy they gave to me (i.e doing unto others as they did to me). Although, I am still about “equal energy” in certain cases, I am careful to not let the behaviors of others change who I am or how I behave. I am a friendly and caring person, full stop.
Emotional life: Dealing with struggles, hard times & challenges
This year, I have had my fair share of heart breaks – by people, myself and expectations. I have had some very painful experiences I cried a lot about, was in touch with my feelings, went on rants, got emotional AF, drank away my sorrows etc, but nothing changed much (at least, not without action). Looking back at those experiences, I realized:
- The world does not owe you anything and will not cease to exist because life didn’t turn out just like you planned for it to or because you are sad. It is best to be thankful for everything you have.
- No matter how hard the challenges seem, remember you will not die and whatever doesn’t kill actually just makes you stronger.
- You will grind, hustle, whatever you may call it, because it is all a part of life and the process. The best thing to do is to embrace your season and learn as much as you can because in your lowest points, you can create the best experiences.
“When something bad happens, you have three choices. You can either let it define you, let it destroy you, or let it strengthen you”
- Do something that makes you truly happy, something that scares you and take life a day at a time.
- Finally, the most important aspect of my life is my relationship with God.
Spiritual Life: This is the most important part of my life and I guess over the last few months I have learnt to depend solely on God because He loves me and cares for me. I have experienced perfect peace in the midst of hard times and although I am uncertain about my future at the moment and am trying to figure out life, I trust Him with every single detail of my life. I am learning to completely surrender to God because it is hard to do things myself. I am also learning to be proud of my relationship with God and speak about my faith more openly.
Time away from the blog gave me the opportunity to plan what I wanted to do with the blog, redefine the blog, etc. I have been contemplating changing the blog name and switched platforms ( had to redesign the entire blog).
The main reason I blog is to share experiences that inspire others; this blog is all about inspiring people and I am more interested in the quality of the content I share but will like to share more consistently.
What to look out for- the savings survey result (haha) and a whole lot of inspiration – I have already written some posts.
It feels good to be back.